Email lifestyle@thestar.com.my or write to Dear Thelma, c/o StarLifestyle, Menara Star, 15, Jalan 16/11,46350 Petaling Jaya, Selangor. I really don’t understand why he treats me this way. Brokenhearted Dear Brokenhearted,To assess your position, I think you need to think from two positions: financial and happiness. You think your husband earns a good salary but he tells you that he has a lot of debt. And from your description of this man, I don't think asking him will be useful.