Related: I Finally Worked Up The Courage To Tell My Husband I’d Never Had An Orgasm. Putting a statistic on our potential future felt clinical — so far from the warmth and hope I’d felt when we first fell in love. The mattress felt strong and supportive, but I was worried how it would hold up over time. He said that though his husband was a large man, after eight years, the mattress felt as good as new. I told the associate I’d take it.