Because we’ve heard phrases like “You got this” or “There’s more fish in the sea,” we assume we’re offering comfort, support or wisdom. We asked experts to weigh in on what not to say and what actually helps. “While well-intentioned, these statements bypass emotion rather than acknowledge it,” said Erica Schwartzberg, a licensed master social worker. “Pushing through emotional pain doesn’t work in the long run,” Gibson said. AdvertisementIn some cases, it’s not what you say but how you show up.
