We asked couples therapists which phrases they personally never or rarely (hey, even the pros aren’t perfect!) AdvertisementSimilarly, Los Angeles marriage and family therapist Gayane Aramyan said she avoids using blame-y “you” statements (e.g. ‘You should do this.’Sean Davis, a marriage and family therapist in Roseville, California, told HuffPost he “rarely, if ever, makes absolute statements” about his wife’s choices. ‘If you loved me, you would ...’When you use this setup with a partner, you’re behaving in a manipulative way — whether you mean to or not. “It is important to remember that there is a clear reason, or set of reasons, you are no longer in this past relationship,” Makepeace said.

Source: Huffington Post April 20, 2023 22:47 UTC