It feels controlling, and I've told him he cannot tell me how to answer. But I tend to withdraw after these episodes or give him a bit of silent treatment, which feels controlling on my part. Years ago, we had a heart-to-heart about this and he confessed that my answers were confusing to him, that he is a simple man and he needs a simple answer. ADADBut I'm not doing this on purpose, it is a reflection of the way I think and the way I am. An exchange, in other words, allows you both to feel whole and in control — hence no need to act controlling.

Source: Washington Post August 21, 2020 04:06 UTC