He wants me to be happy, so he adjusted his behavior and engages less with female friends one-on-one. Meanwhile, I'm really trying hard to get better when his friendships put him in one-on-one situations with female friends . ADI also cannot make my discomfort go away, so I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of saying, "Go back to hanging out with your lady friends, no prob." Your request that he see his female friends less was controlling, yes — because you did it to address something in you by changing him. And he is indeed missing out on his friends, who are in turn missing out on him, when they did nothing wrong.

Source: Washington Post August 18, 2020 03:56 UTC