And while he would love to start over with me, what keeps him there is his two children. Knowing this, knowing that eventually this love I’m in could land me at a crossroads where I’m urged into seeing myself in a light that inevitably makes me feel ashamed of myself still scares me some. And I think this is an example of what we expect love to do to us, right? And it’s true, I have been able to bend because I love not only this man that much but I love who we are as a couple. I have a feeling this is how couples wind up resentful because one part of the pair wakes up and realizes they’ve done everything—they’ve bent themselves around every expectation—just to be with the person they love and in doing so prioritized their love for another over the love they should have always advocated for themselves.

Source: Huffington Post March 13, 2019 17:03 UTC