He's hiding his coke use from you instead of being honest, and you're snooping through his phone to get answers instead of asking him directly. I think you need to own up to violating his privacy, acknowledge that it was wrong, and commit to not doing it again. So, really, framing this conversation as "asking" him for an open relationship would just add another layer of deceit to the whole situation. You're not actually interested in gauging your boyfriend's feelings about an open relationship; you're interested in having sex with someone else regardless of how he feels about it. Hopefully, I don't need to explain why that is the wrong question to be asking here.

Source: The Star December 04, 2022 21:50 UTC