People pleasers often possess an acute fear of rejection or disapproval which drives their relentless pursuit of meeting others’ expectations. This fear, rooted in a deep-seated need for external validation, becomes a driving force behind their behaviours, compelling them to go to great lengths to ensure the comfort and satisfaction of those around them. This preoccupation with external validation can result in a habitual neglect of their own needs, desires and boundaries. Additionally, people pleasers may develop a pervasive fear of confrontation, avoiding assertiveness for fear of causing discomfort or conflict. This aversion to healthy confrontation can lead to the accumulation of unaddressed grievances, fostering resentment and perpetuating a cycle of passive-aggressive behaviour.

Source: The Star December 10, 2023 17:18 UTC