Advice: My ex’s mum blackmailed him into breaking up with me
But where does that leave your feelings around your ex’s mum being prejudiced and now being broken up with because of it? It’s clear what your ex is willing to tolerate, but what are you willing to tolerate? Emotional blackmail hinges on the person being blackmailed - your ex - acquiescing to the blackmailer’s - your ex’s mum - demands. Cultural expectations are of course at play here - maybe your ex’s mum is trying to save face in her community. In what ways are you actually causing harm to your ex’s family by being together?
Source:New Zealand Herald
November 22, 2024 02:30 UTC
Why fighting the office kitchen wars is a losing battle
“Just put it in the bloody dishwasher!”Yes, there’s a dishwasher in the kitchen. It’s also grossly self-entitled – the assumption that someone far less important, whose time is less precious, will pick up after you. This one, I liked: “Every time you don’t wash your dishes, god kills a kitten.” Apparently it’s pretty effective. The woman who posted that note in her office kitchen hands out a cartoon picture of a dead cat whenever she finds dirty dishes in the sink. One poor guy posted on Reddit about flying long-distance to New York, arriving late that night at the private room he’d booked on Airbnb.
Source:New Zealand Herald
November 22, 2024 01:32 UTC
New solar farm to generate enough power for 800 homes
Energy Marlborough, a subsidiary of Marlborough lines, has announced its new Seaview solar farm produced its first energy in October. The solar farm, adjacent to Yealands Winery, had 6168 solar panels, which Energy Marlborough said made it the largest farm in the upper South Island. Marlborough Lines chief executive Tim Cosgrove said the new solar farm represented a significant investment in renewable energy. He said the solar farm was a major step forward in meeting the region's growing local energy needs "more sustainably". Energy Marlborough said work to construct an even larger solar farm in Ward started this month.
Source:Stuff
November 22, 2024 01:28 UTC
Open mike 22/11/2024
The world is emitting over 40 gigatons of CO2 per year, contributing to anof the planet. The world needs to cut emissions rapidly to be remotely on track to meet our Paris Agreement goals of limiting warming to well-below 2C, and weThis is a re-post from the Climate Brink ...
Source:New Zealand Herald
November 22, 2024 00:57 UTC
Creditors left $10m out of pocket as Dunedin company liquidates
A Dunedin ticketing company placed into liquidation has left creditors nearly $10 million out of pocket. The company was owned by former Dunedin businessman Matthew Davey, who was once the largest shareholder in the Highlanders. The final liquidation report, released this week, stated that Fortress’ total indebtedness to the Bank of New Zealand, a secured creditor, was $5,124,195.17. The liquidator had also received a preferential claim from the Inland Revenue Department for GST and PAYE arrears of $512,163.97. ‘‘Unfortunately, there were insufficient recoveries in the liquidation to enable a distribution to unsecured creditors,’’ the report said.
Source:Otago Daily Times
November 21, 2024 23:35 UTC
Stuff readership soars across print and digital
AUCKLAND, Today: More Kiwis are picking up The Post, The Press, and Waikato Times, with Nielsen’s latest results showing readership climbing steadily over the past quarter. Add in their digital subscription audience, and these mastheads now connect with an impressive 1.4 million New Zealanders every month. *Joanna Norris, Stuff Masthead Publishing Managing Director, says, “Stuff Group continues to have the number one combined print and digital audience – stuff.co.nz is the country’s largest New Zealand website and Stuff’s newspapers and premium magazines outstrip the competition.”“In total, we reach 2.3 million Kiwis each month** across our daily and community newspapers and premium magazines,” she explained.
Source:Stuff
November 21, 2024 19:48 UTC
Gladiator II review: Leave history in the history books and just enjoy gladiators fighting sharks
Paul Mescal and Pedro Pascal battle it out in Gladiator II. That’s because Gladiator II doesn’t have a particularly good story to get in the way of. This will sound very familiar to those who have seen its predecessor, the Russell Crowe-starring, Oscar-winning 2000 movie Gladiator. This is mostly out of necessity, because the story bits of Gladiator II tend to linger and drag. Gladiator II is in cinemas now.
Source:New Zealand Herald
November 21, 2024 19:03 UTC
‘A terrible and cruel loss’: Melbourne woman dies after suspected methanol poisoning in Laos
Bianca Jones, one of two Melbourne teenagers whose dream holiday in South-East Asia was cut short by suspected methanol poisoning, has died “surrounded by love”. Prime Minister Anthony Albanese said it was a nightmare that no parent should have to endure. “Our first thoughts at this moment are with her family and friends, who are grieving a terrible and cruel loss. This is every parent’s very worst fear,” Albanese told parliament on Thursday afternoon. “All Australians offer them our deepest sympathy in this time of heartbreak.
Source:Stuff
November 21, 2024 13:26 UTC
Half of Canterbury University students set to miss out on halls of residence places
Photo: RNZ / Nate McKinnonFirst year University of Canterbury students are being forced to go flatting as capacity in the university's halls of residence is at a peak. But that has meant more than 4000 students have applied for spots in the first year halls when there are only 2083 spaces available. With so many students forced to look elsewhere to live, flats have also become harder to come by. He said students get a sense of belonging through the university's many clubs, such as the Canterbury University Boardriders Association and Lads Without Labels. It said the university was assessing the needs of future students across all areas, including on campus accommodation.
Source:Stuff
November 21, 2024 12:39 UTC
Meet Trump’s free speech warrior taking on America’s ‘censorship cartel’
In the motley crew of Donald Trump’s cabinet appointments, it would have been easy to miss the 45-year-old lawyer who is already part of the Washington establishment. On Sunday, Trump chose Carr to lead the Federal Communications Commission (FCC), praising Carr as “a warrior for free speech” and a fighter against “the regulatory lawfare that has stifled Americans’ freedoms”. The regulator has broad licence for enforcing rules around media plurality and fairness, which Carr is likely to deploy. “We must dismantle the censorship cartel and restore free speech rights for everyday Americans,” he wrote on X this week, interspersed with reaction GIFs and posts sparring with critics. Being heavy on rhetoric is par for the course in Trump’s inner circle, but Carr is one of the few with an action plan.
Source:Stuff
November 21, 2024 12:03 UTC
Mt Roskill bar murder trial: Defendant Christopher Salt testifies that victim Tofimua Matagi threatened shooting
A CCTV still from Richardson’s Bar and Restaurant in Mt Roskill, Auckland, shows Christopher Salt (left) and Tofimua Matagi playing darts together shortly before Salt fatally assaulted him. A CCTV still from Richardson’s Bar and Restaurant in Mt Roskill. Police officer stands guard outside Richardson's Restaurant in Mt Roskill following a homicide. A CCTV still from Richardson’s Bar and Restaurant in Mt Roskill, Auckland, shows Christopher Salt taking a swing at Tofimua Matagi while the victim wasn't looking. But it was clear from the footage that Matagi didn’t see it coming, as he didn’t react or flinch before falling to the ground.
Source:Stuff
November 21, 2024 12:02 UTC
Daily review 21/11/2024
Written By: notices and features - Date published: 5:30 pm, November 21st, 2024 - 15 commentsCategories: Daily review - Tags:Daily review is also your post. This provides Standardistas the opportunity to review events of the day. The usual rules of good behaviour apply (see the Policy). Don’t forget to be kind to each other …Share this: FacebookLinkedInRedditPinterestMastodonTwitterPrintEmail
Source:New Zealand Herald
November 21, 2024 10:39 UTC
Blutui announces Ian Wright as its first-ever ambassador
SaaS platform Blutui is announcing the appointment of Ian Wright, former MD of Tribe Global, into the role of Blutui Ambassador. Known for his impact at Tribe Global, where he built a thriving international network of independent agencies, Wright has a history of fostering innovation in Adland. “We’re honored and delighted to have Ian as a voice for Blutui,” says Graeme Blake, CEO of Blutui. “I’m honored to join Blutui as its first-ever Ambassador,” says Wright. I look forward to championing Blutui as a platform that can truly help agency teams worldwide achieve their growth and creative ambitions.”
Source:Stuff
November 21, 2024 08:24 UTC
National’s Erica Stanford allegedly calls Labour’s Jan Tinetti a ‘stupid bitch’
During the following question, Labour’s Duncan Webb told the Speaker that Stanford had made an unparliamentary remark when returning to her seat, and it would probably be appropriate for her to apologise. Photo / Mark MitchellAssistant Speaker Barbara Kuriger said she also had not heard the comment and asked if such a comment was made, prompting Stanford to immediately withdraw and apologise. In fact, I had a meeting with her just last night around NCEA, so we have civil conversations. “I wouldn’t find that acceptable in any workplace, let alone in a place where we’ve got strict rules for a reason.”Stanford has been contacted for comment. Sign up to The Daily H, a free newsletter curated by our editors and delivered straight to your inbox every weekday.
Source:New Zealand Herald
November 21, 2024 08:13 UTC
Samoan Local Upset With Lack Of Manawanui Updates
Article – RNZBut both the Chief of Navy and the Samoan government say community engagement is being led by local authorities. Caleb Fotheringham, RNZ Pacific JournalistA Samoan local says there has been no communication from the New Zealand Navy on the Manawnaui incident, but both the Chief of Navy and the Samoan government say community engagement is being led by local authorities. Percival said it could be easily rectified by a Facebook page or similar forum where people could submit questions both in Samoan and English. He also thought local radio ads could be used by the Navy to communicate key messages. Deputy Chief of Navy Andrew Brown said the Samoan Government is leading the community engagement.
Source:Stuff
November 21, 2024 08:07 UTC