I’ve read your note many times, and here is the one question you ask of me: “Is this normal?” Meaning, is your partner’s level of guilt normal? There are so many details that I don’t know here, and I don’t know why your partner is so guilt-ridden. ADADI know and have coached many divorced parents, and all suffer at the thought of hurting their children. Even when the marriage is toxic and separation is clearly the answer, parents would do virtually anything to not cause their children to worry. I hope that your partner, with or without you, finds a way to be with and enjoy his children while tempering his guilt.

Source: Washington Post January 29, 2020 14:01 UTC