In the #MeToo era, it may seem easier than ever to come out as a survivor of sexual assault or harassment, or an abusive relationship. At what point do you open up to someone, with whom you may have a future, about painful things in your past? “Survivors should never feel guilty about centering their own needs, whether that means sharing with your partner or not sharing with your partner,” Davidson says. “How is it something that doesn’t feel like an obligation but also not an impulse?” she says. She also suggests having a safe word that someone can use to stop sexual activity if they’re feeling triggered or having flashbacks.

Source: Washington Post February 15, 2018 12:00 UTC