We are both in our 60s and, after illness six years ago, she is unable to take medication that may helpMy wife has a diminishing sex drive and now continually making excuses as to why it is not a good time to be intimate. She had breast cancer six years ago and this precludes her taking medication that may help. Let her know you want to understand what she truly needs now. She may have a penchant for a non-demanding style of sex, and orgasm may not be that easy to achieve. • Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders• If you would like advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to private.lives@theguardian.com (please don’t send attachments).

Source: The Guardian July 31, 2017 06:56 UTC