Before we had our son we had a very active sex life and each of us would initiate almost daily: we would share fantasies all the time. We both work from home and she often asks me to massage her body at night, but this virtually never leads to sex. When we have sex it is still good, but it feels as if she only wants it after drinking. When I have raised this she has been defensive and suggested we have a normal sex life for our age. There’s no need to take it personally – your wife is just trying to relax and get herself “in the mood”.

Source: The Guardian April 18, 2023 17:58 UTC